When I first discovered kinbaku, I was drawn to it because I saw it as a new, interesting form of communication. It's sensual and erotic, but in my mind, it's something completely different from a verbal conversation or sexual intercourse. It can have similar effects, I think. It can make someone feel relieved, make some feel like they aren't alone, even for a period of time, similar to how one might feel after having a chat with a good friend, except no words are necessary. It can also make people feel loved, and special, I think, but perhaps not always/all the time. But that's one of the great things about it, I think. It can be used in so many different ways and have various outcomes, making it extremely versatile and unique from traditional modes of communication.
That's how I feel about kinbaku from the inside, but there's a lot that can be gained from the outside, too. It's obviously artistic and beautiful, can be used for performance, or to communicate something not just between the two who are directly involved in the tying, but to the crowd/people watching as well.
Thank you for sharing. While communication through rope does not require words, it’s really nice to such thoughts in words too. Despite my years practicing kinbaku, or perhaps due to years practicing kinbaku, I find it very difficult to encapsulate what I feel in written and verbal mode of expression.
I think that -“It can also make people feel loved, and special, I think” - is something that can be felt from both the person tying and the person being tied. As a person tying, the energy and also the acceptance and trust that the person in my ropes gives to me touches many emotions on differing levels. So many things that are rarely said in words are communicated. At this point the only other person that exists in the person I am tying, and when that person shows the same to me, even if without words or gestures, it is very special.
I love that precise moment when the person I am tying completely let’s go. It can be a slight change in facial expression or the tension held in the muscles of the body. That is what drives me when tying (or untying) I guess. I mentioned untying because often this is the ‘icing on the cake’ so to speak. It is sensual, exciting, and at times spontaneous.
When I first discovered kinbaku, I was drawn to it because I saw it as a new, interesting form of communication. It's sensual and erotic, but in my mind, it's something completely different from a verbal conversation or sexual intercourse. It can have similar effects, I think. It can make someone feel relieved, make some feel like they aren't alone, even for a period of time, similar to how one might feel after having a chat with a good friend, except no words are necessary. It can also make people feel loved, and special, I think, but perhaps not always/all the time. But that's one of the great things about it, I think. It can be used in so many different ways and have various outcomes, making it extremely versatile and unique from traditional modes of communication.
That's how I feel about kinbaku from the inside, but there's a lot that can be gained from the outside, too. It's obviously artistic and beautiful, can be used for performance, or to communicate something not just between the two who are directly involved in the tying, but to the crowd/people watching as well.
Thank you for sharing. While communication through rope does not require words, it’s really nice to such thoughts in words too. Despite my years practicing kinbaku, or perhaps due to years practicing kinbaku, I find it very difficult to encapsulate what I feel in written and verbal mode of expression. I think that -“It can also make people feel loved, and special, I think” - is something that can be felt from both the person tying and the person being tied. As a person tying, the energy and also the acceptance and trust that the person in my ropes gives to me touches many emotions on differing levels. So many things that are rarely said in words are communicated. At this point the only other person that exists in the person I am tying, and when that person shows the same to me, even if without words or gestures, it is very special.
I love that precise moment when the person I am tying completely let’s go. It can be a slight change in facial expression or the tension held in the muscles of the body. That is what drives me when tying (or untying) I guess. I mentioned untying because often this is the ‘icing on the cake’ so to speak. It is sensual, exciting, and at times spontaneous.